Attachment theory and emotion regulation skills to the rescue. — Have you ever wondered why it is so hard for people to leave abusive relationships? Have you questioned why it is hard to stop giving chance after chance to people who hurt and confuse us? Have you ever wondered why we tend to go into a trance of allowing and…

I have written this article as a tribute to the development of the human race. We could all grow a lot by becoming better able to understand where we get stuck in our own thinking and feeling processes. …

Hello everyone! I have been interviewed for the online Trauma Super Conference, about the topic of betrayal. This conference will be free for viewers for a limited time only, from April 25th through till May 1st. In the interview I share a comprehensive description of why we betray, who betrays…

What is the deeper meaning of it all? — I have been a self-help writer on Medium since mid 2018. In that time, I have had some weird experiences with my readership. Granted, most of these interactions have been extremely positive, so I cannot complain. …

I have healed from Narcissistic Abuse, and so can you! — Dear Survivor, Many of us often feel humiliated, lonely, and deeply misunderstood after we end a relationship with a Narcissist. This is due to multiple factors. Our relationships with friends and family fell apart while with the Narcissist. We are exhausted and traumatized, and may self-isolate. We cannot believe what…

Disclaimer: The process of growth and transformation looks different for every single person. We all come from multiple, overlaying contexts that create traumas, beliefs, limits, and ways of engaging with the world, that are unique to each individual! Please read this article as a suggestion for a new way to…

A psychologist shares about the path of honesty and accountability. — IMPORTANT: Please read the entire article and a Disclaimer at the bottom of this post, before you comment. I would venture to say most of us prevent our own growth, with arrogance. However, Empaths and Codependents, may have a very difficult time addressing that they do this, because of the…

Our New Year doesn’t need to have a transformative outcome. — Memes that share about the disorienting, and often painful nature of the days between Christmas and New Years, exist for a reason. They seem to point to a collectively shared experience of pain, simultaneously making us more aware of (and seen in) our humanity, while getting to laugh about it.

These three specific traps are what give Apologetic Narcissists, continued free reign, in your life. — Many of us who have a record of being partnered with Narcissists, understand there are several ways Narcissists do their damage in relationships. I want to focus here on the act of apologizing. There are those in the Narcissist camp who will rarely if ever apologize. …