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Why You Haven’t Made That Major Life Change
And how to finally do it.
A fundamental shift in any change process occurs when people fully realize they have the agency to make changes, and in the moment, feel empowered by this agency to make new decisions. Agency is the key word here. What exactly is agency, though?
According to the Mirriam Webster online dictionary, agency means,
“ The capacity, condition, or state of acting, or of exerting power.”
Agency is essentially the power to know you have the power.
So many people are extremely critical of themselves because they feel stuck and unable to stop repeating the same patterns in their life. Even though they might have a detailed vision of what goals they want to accomplish, skills they want to learn, and/or the life they want in the future, they just can’t seem to motivate themselves to actualize this.
This is not a motivational problem, it is based on not knowing you have the power to be powerful, which is a lack of agency. Additionally, some of the smartest, most skilled, organized, resourceful, intelligent, logical, able people feel hopeless and powerless when what they want to accomplish feels repeatedly just out of reach.
