Most Of Us Spend Life Standing Outside Of The Self-Love Club

Many of us learned a form of self-love, based on whether we are doing or being a way that fits with our core beliefs about who we should be, what we should do, and how life should work. Then, when we strive to “grow” in self-love, we either set about accomplishing our goals aligning with these core beliefs, or we exchange some other set of circumstances and beliefs to help us feel better about our self. Usually, in the course of life, we outgrow this way of being that used to help us feel self-love, and need to do and be more to feel self loving again. Many of us feel like we spend our lifetime perpetually standing in line at the self-love club. Is this an illusive quality of self-love that we will always have to deal with? I don’t think so, and I want to share what I have learned in my own life. Read on to explore more.

We humans are tricky and sophisticated creatures. We think we are transcending an issue, only to step into another new box, that creates a whole new set of constraints and inner turmoil. I spent much of my life stepping from one trap I have created, into another, in regard to self-love. I have spent a whole lot of time exploring what this is about, and how come I haven’t just finally learned, “self-love”. I have spent hours upon hours doing self-love exercises or activities, meditating, getting psychotherapy and coaching, reading, researching, talking to people, and contemplating what self-love ACTUALLY is, only to usually draw a blank, or eventually throw out any theory I originally…