I am sorry you had to go through twenty years of this. You are now an expert in many ways on Covert Narcissists, just from your experiences. Sounds like you just needed to heal, find your alignment, and also find some literature to recognize how much you know. I would love to see whatever you might write about Narcissists, too. You likely have a perspective that could help so many people! And yes, the “no” is a big one. haha That twitch! So true. They cannot accept it! … Thank you for the encouragement! Took a turn away from writing about Narcissism lately, but I shall see about writing something else soon, about more of nuances with these relationships.
I wish you well!