I agree- accountability is a part of healing, and of course, everyone comes to this naturally in their own time.

I am not forcing anyone to take accountability here. I simply wrote an article with a certain perspective, that you can either choose to read or not. There is no force.

I am going to be frank: your response pisses me off.

I am ALSO a survivor of abuse.

You do not own the one and only perspective on abuse, recovery, and healing. I do not need to be educated by you, on my own experience. I have just as much a right to express my perspective here around accountability, while being respected, just as you do.

To be called "dangerous" and have it insinuated that I am (like) a "toxic therapist", is an attack on my character and credibility, and is also really taking a leap.

I am sorry you had to endure abuse. I understand as a part of abuse we get brainwashed into believing we are the fucked up one who is doing all the damage to our abuser and the relationship. It takes a lot of time to recover from the extreme self-blame we develop in those dynamics.

My hope is you continue to find peace around how to be accountable for your own life, while coming to terms with letting go of where you have blamed yourself. This is a process I still go through.