Escaping The Self-Worth Circus

In my adult life, I have received the consistent message of all the ways I need to improve and perfect myself, to become worthy of love.

Some of these messages are implicit, some explicit. These messages follow this theme: If only I were worthy or enough somehow, I would finally experience some iteration of love from existence, society, culture, community, family, or a partner.

Let me be more clear about these iterations of love, by sharing a belief many of us hold: If I were _________ enough (and thus worthy), I could then experience my ultimate…